composed on February 21, 2002
by Gaga-Oly

for: Philosophy 1

I. My Definition of LOVE
II. My Loving Experiences
III. My Loving Encounters

Love claims several different definitions. Everyone has his own meaning of the word LOVE. To a parent, love is a sacrifice. To sacrifice his own for the sake of the children. To a child, giving to her what she always wanted is loving. When a child demands, "Mom, i want this", and the parent gave it, it is that love that she believe it is. To a friend, keeping secrets, always being there, and helping are what love is. Then, to lovers, it is that understanding, willingness to offer the thing that will make her be loved, and to care is to love. Comprise these different persons into one being and that is me. That parent would be me.

As a teenager, I'm going to stress emphasis on the part that suited my era. Love is a feeling you feel when you get a feeling you never felt before. That feeling would be some kinda crush, infatuation or something else. Because these are the prerequisites of love. Crush is the admiration you have for the first time you saw the person. It's you're attracted to that person. Then that infatuation is mistakenly defined as love although its not.

Infatuation
is a desire. A desire to be with the person you like always, talk to, laugh with, share good times with. Infatuation is a selfish desire. But then, LOVE will be developed out of these. You started to feel worry for the person,   have already that care that you are willing to offer to that person. Then LOVE is there already.

I am going to define LOVE on my own. We call it experience. LOVE is never in a hurry. It knows how to wait. Not only to wait but to wait patiently. Love did not develop suddenly but gradually. Slowly through a sort of evaluation. But no matter what are the things I learned from that evaluation, I still have that love for the person special to me.I ' felt discouraged. Because love does not choose. It does not look after what he has but for what he is instead.

Love does not give up on circumstances. It does not allow outward force to attack. Love accepts each other's differences and knows how to adjust with them. It respects each other's views and ideas. Because love is guided by principles which make it strong and determined.Love is not always in happiness. Love is always willing to give. It does not know how to ask, it is not self-seeking, it involves logic and determination. When you love because you need the person, it is not love but lust. But out of despair it seeks a way to find comfort. It is not a fantasy. Love faces actualities in life.

True love ask God for guidance. True love is guided and inspired by the heavenly force that make it strong and unyielding. Love is long lasting, it is never ending, it is FOREVER.

gaga-oly